Queen Of The Dirt

Just like the age old question, “What came first the chicken or the egg?” I often wonder which is better, being in a relationship or being single.

A single friend of mine several weeks ago at a party turned to me and two of my married friends after several cocktails and said “ I am so jealous of all of you, you all have someone to go home too.” My friends and I looked at each other in amazement. We never would have thought, our friend the party girl who has all the freedom in the world is jealous of us? (All 3 of us have children) We all simultaneously said, “No we are jealous of you!! You can do whatever you want, whenever you want!!”

So here lies the question…Who has it better…Singles or Couples??
I have been at all four corners. (That sounds funny, I know) Single and loving it, Single and lonely, in a relationship and miserable and in a relationship and very much happy.

To better help me make up my mind on which side has it better I have made a list of benefits for both sides. I will start with singles.

Singles:
• Flirting- who doesn’t love to flirt!!
• $$$- what’s yours is yours.
• ZZZ’s- there is no one disturbing your precious beauty sleep.
• No pressure to be neat…You can be a slob all you want. (that seems scary but true)
• Dating- granted after awhile to some it may become exhausting, but what better way to network.
• You are your own boss…no explaining necessary.
• More buddy time, as long as your friends are single too, there is much more time to party with them.
• HOLIDAYS (this is probably the biggest one for me) Singles only have to go to one set of family functions. Couples have to go to two!! WTF??

So you see there are several benefits to being without love in your life. Key phrase: Love thy self!!

Couples:
• Well first of all there is the obvious; we all want someone to grow old with. No body wants to be wrinkly all by themselves.
• Sex- always available (and refer to first benefit- someone will still have to do you, wrinkles and all)
• Weddings and date functions- always have a plus one.
• Taxes- Married people get a better tax break…and your car insurance will be cheaper.
• And the last but not least, actually probably should have put this first…LOVE…being in love with someone that loves you back is the absolute best feeling in the world.

So the there it is. If we can’t have both how do we make the two paths coexist in our lives? Can we have the best of both worlds? Can we have all the lovey mushy stuff and still have the freedom to come and go as we please, spend what we want when we want? In a perfect world I would say yes. In reality I say LMAO. NO.

 ’Cause I’m young and single, and I loves to mingle. -FAME 1980